I am slowly learning to stop assuming everything bad that could possibly happen is going to happen.
I am not going to picture horrible things happening inside my head.
I am not going to allow my fears to control me.
I am not going to waste my time trying to predict the future when there is no way for me to guess what is going to happen.
I am not going to convince myself there are only horrible things awaiting me in the future because there is no telling what the day will bring.
From now on, I am not going to miss out on my chance at happiness because I am too worried about what is going to happen five seconds from now, five hours from now, five days from now.
I am learning to live in the moment, to enjoy my peace while it lasts, instead of bracing myself for whatever is coming next.
From now on, I am going to breathe deeper. I am going to calm down. I am going to avoid overthinking because it only leads me down a dark path of self-hatred.
I am slowly learning little things are not the end of the world.
There is no reason for me to dwell on the embarrassing things I have done in the past because no one cares about them except for me. They are not a big deal to anyone except for me.
I am slowly learning to put more faith in myself.
I am not going to assume everyone at a party will hate me.
I am not going to assume an interviewer will turn down my resume.
I am not going to assume I am not experienced enough, not pretty enough, not talented enough.
I am slowly learning to stop awaiting the worst case scenario. I am slowly learning to abandon my pessimistic way of thinking. I am slowly learning to hold onto hope that things will get better.
Once I start imagining the worst case scenario, here are the things I ask myself:
- ‘It’s not happening now.’ Yes, it’s certainly possible that ‘the worst thing’ could happen, but it’s not happening now.
- ‘Whatever happens, I can cope.’ This statement reminds you that you are in control of your emotions IF anything were to go wrong.
- ‘I am causing my own suffering. Could I stop?’ If you are causing your own suffering with ‘what if’ thoughts, acknowledge those thoughts. The question, ‘Could I stop?’ helps you see that you have a choice to do so!
Don’t let your negative thoughts overwhelm you and take up most of your thinking. In reality, there is such a big chance of things going right rather than wrong. Just be patient!
Thanks for reading!